Easy Like Sunday Morning

Sundays have always been my favorite day of the week. The day to recharge and get fed. A day when my soul is fed and refueled and so is my stomach! It’s a pretty nostalgic day.

I’m reminded of my childhood…going to church and then eating the most satisfying meals. It was the day when family and friends came together for no other reason than to just spend time with the people life had bonded them with before the work week started and everyone was pulled their separate ways. People shared, others listened, and the result subconsciously was therapeutic.

I love Sundays because although times have changed a lot of the ways in which people spend their Sundays remain. Today, instead of waking up and going to church it may look more like finding a comfy spot on the couch and watching ‘Super Soul Sundays’ on OWN or instead of everyone meeting at grandma’s for an early dinner everyone meets up at the latest restaurant for brunch.

Whether it’s the memories of what seemed a simpler time or the current, Sundays remain the day of the week I look forward to the most.

I spent this Sunday waking up at will (something I long for) to peace and quiet and I was thankful. I reminisced in conversation with family. I fed my spirit with meditation, connecting with my love and nature: face up staring at the sky while laying on my daughter’s trampoline. I was physically fed authentic cultural eats. I ended my day watching a Disney movie while braiding my daughter’s hair.

Today, I find myself ready for the week and longing for more days as easy as Sunday: Days where I’m moving slower, at will, fed, and connected!

Did you know that social connection improves social, emotional and physical well-being? “We are all wired to love, be loved, and to belong!” My favorite psychologist, Maslow, lists “love and belonging” as a need on his hierarchy to self-actualization (self fulfillment/full potential). It’s considered a basic need and until reached it’s harder to reach higher levels of personal growth and fulfillment. So today I encourage you to connect (preferably face to face), It’s good for you!

What’s your favorite day of the week and why?

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“Who needs that same ole love story anyway (cliche’)”

She won me over after Coachella (homage to black history, culture, and Historically Black Colleges and Universities). He won me over with 4:44 (truth, wisdom, knowledge, and growth). They won me over with ‘The Carters’ (black experience, black love, black family, black excellence) . ‘The Carters’ led me to the ‘On The Run II’ tour! The ‘On The Run II’ tour led me to my feelings. I am loving the current “trend” of seeing black couples love on each other openly. I am encouraged to believe that this behavior will extend beyond the current tread and I pray that it lasts forever! “Nothings perfect but it’s worth it”. It’s my belief that we can all grow and learn in love through the transparency of others whether in person or imitated through art.

‘The Carters’ was a nine song album that I’m able to listen to from start to finish starting ‘Summer’ hearing Jay Z say…..

“I brought my sand to the beach
Hopped out the Lam’ with the sheep
Skin rugs on the floor
We hugged, made love on the seats
We tried to hide in the hills
We watched the sky turn peach
Summer’s light like, summer’s night
It’s like, Christ masterpiece”

This stood out to me because growing up I often heard “Don’t bring sand to the beach” from my elders. The message here is that you may find someone better! I’m relieved to know that he realized that the grass isn’t always greener and to nurture the relationship with the woman he had.

And ending with ‘LoveHappy’

“You did some things to me
Boy, you do some things to me
But love is deeper than your pain and I believe you can change
Baby, the ups and downs are worth it
Long way to go, but we’ll work it
We’re flawed but we’re still perfect for each other, yeah, yeah, yeah
Sometimes I thought we’d never see the light
Went through hell with heaven on our side
This beach ain’t always been no paradise
But nightmares only last one night
Damn, look at us now
Pray, pray for the vows
Way up now, it’s a long way, a long way down
We came, and we saw, and we conquered it all
We came, and we conquered, now we’re happy in love” -Beyonce’
The magic of the album lies within its transparency. It speaks to the truth of their experiences as a couple, as a family, within friendships, and being black in America.
What are your thoughts on the state of relationships? Are they headed up/down? Or has nothing changed?
One thing I know for sure is we are at an all time high in regards positive depictions and imagery.
“What’s better than one billionaire? Two!”
And you know what they say “when two come together………it shall be done.”
Get yours!
Find you one and grow!

Blessings on blessings on blessings (way up I feel blessed)

Looking back on my weekend I feel blessed.

Blessed to have celebrated my daughter’s 10th birthday with 10 of her friends and my closest boos. Blessed by the life of my great aunt who transitioned to paradise Friday (death inspires me to LIVE). Blessed to have attended the ‘On The Run II’ concert! And blessed by the imagery and representation of Black Love, Black Family, and Black Excellence displayed while there.

I was literally ‘One The Run’ this weekend and was blessed every step of the way!

How was your weekend?

Blazer (thrifted)// ‘Being Mary Jane’ closet sale Top// Forever 21 Shorts (thrifted)// Uptown Cheapskate Shoes// Forever 21

Do you (still) love me? Are you riding?

And here we are…..FOUR YEARS LATER!! Where have I been? Great question! I guess to stick with theme of the pursuit of happiness….I’ve been through a lot BUT I’ve come out on the side of happiness. Although unintentional (in regards to my blog), I took time to pursue things that I found to be important to my happy profile. I gained somethings and eliminated others. None of it was easy but all of it was worth it. Reflecting on where I was when I began this blog has me “in my feelings”. I don’t think that phrase was even a thing when I made my last post, now there’s whole challenges surrounding it (if you participated comment below). I must say that I am proud of myself for getting through the things that I’ve gotten through. I am grateful for my experiences because they have pushed me to grow and I now possess a deeper perspective.

In the spirit of 4……here are 4 things I’ve learned:

  1. In all things you have to be intentional.
  2. Gain and sacrifice go hand in hand….you can’t have one without the other.
  3. Life isn’t promised (people remember how you loved) and I’ve lost all respect for timelines (lol).
  4. I learned to choose ME daily over and over again. I don’t belong on a back burner.

 

It’s a new season, It’s a New daaaay!!!

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Hello everyone! It’s been a long time, I shouldn’t’ve left you! Seriously, it’s been so long! I’m easily distracted and I have hard time moving when I can’t see my next step.I have no clue what I am doing blogging but it’s something that I keep coming back to, so when the spirit hits me…..i’m going to post! More and more everyday I’m attempting to work on me. I’m still on my happiness project, failing over and over again along the way. With every failure there’s a lesson and I bask in the beauty of learning. I’m a forever student! Although to some it may seem like i’m floundering or wondering aimlessly, I can feel myself getting closer! Closer to my dream!

Don’t ever stop dreaming!

2014 Happiness (published late…oops!)

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As 2013 is coming to a close and 2014 is on its way in I’m finding myself looking back and reflecting and planning for what’s next! Often times, when in the midst of the day to day, we lose sight of all that we’ve endured and accomplished. We’re so bogged down with just making it day to day that we don’t take time to realize that we’ve come out on the other side! We forget that trouble don’t last always and that he/she always sees us through. There’s a song that says count your blessings, name them one by one……I encourage you to do this throughout your day, much like a meditation. THE SECRET says that we get what we focus on, so why not only focus on what we want but what already what we already have or what is….be present! Life isn’t about arriving! It’s about learning to be fulfilled where you are! Ever heard of the Hedonic Treadmill? It’s a psychology concept that basically refers to humans assigning their happiness to an accomplishment! I.E I’d be happy when I get this raise. My life will begin if I land this job. I’d be so happy if I found the one! Well, according to this theory, the happiness gained from reaching these personal goals or milestones are only temporary because each one of us individually have unique happiness set point and although outside factors may influence it upward or downward, eventually we return to our set point. So wherever your set point may be, today I encourage you to indulge in the moment! Take a moment to not only be thankful but to say Thank you! It’s gotten me through everything! 2014, Let’s Go!!!

The end of Christmas Break!! H-E-L-P!!!!

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Motherhood is a blessing! I’m sure most would agree but do to the already scheduled Christmas break that was then extended a few days do to the Arctic blast that swept the south and east i noticed some mothers and nonmothers for a matter of fact complaining and in disbelief that their kiddos had to stay home for a few extra days. Now, I know some moms had to go back to work and were like “who is gonna watch these kids?”…….STRESS but for me it was relief!! Am I the only mom that finds the everyday chores compounded with dropoff/pickup, homework, hair, bedtime, making lunches/snacks, waking up before the sun, and fighting with BOTH my girls about what they are gonna wear (and they’re both in uniforms) even more stressful??

On the way to school:)

On the way to school:)

Meet my youngest!!! To prep her for back to school I washed, deep conditioned, blow dried and flat ironed her hair. I’ve found that unless braided, its much easier to manage my girls hair in a stretched state. Isn’t she lovely? This is my child that HATES mornings and refuses to open her eyes until inside her class room everyday! In the spirit of becoming more organized, this is my attempt at making things easier for the both of us. I’m also gonna try to implement a better bedtime routine. Please share the techniques that works for you! My main challenges are she typically falls asleep on her way from school as its 30 mins away from our home and she hates that she has to go to bed before her sister (12yrs old). HELP!!!